Resources

Free/Low-Cost Memorial Items for Families

Held Your Whole Life
Mamie's Poppy Plates
Molly Bears- custom weighted teddy bears

Memorial Items

Etsy
A Beautiful Remembrance
Mainely Urns and Memorials
Heaven's Gain

Local Resources

Find a local grief support group

LOST & FOUND
Family-driven support group for women/adults who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. Fourth Thursday of every month from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m.
Location:  Three Rivers Mothers’ Milk Bank
3127 Penn Ave
Pittsburgh, PA 15201
(412) 281-4400
Email: info@midatlanticmilkbank.org
https://midatlanticmilkbank.org/

THE STILL REMEMBERED PROJECT
The Still Remembered Project provides bereaved parents and families Christian-based support and encouragement for a loss due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death.
Still Supported support group is limited to bereaved mothers. In order to make you more comfortable, a support person can attend with you at your initial meeting. There are no restrictions on this support person so a husband/partner would be welcomed at this meeting.
Still Supported meetings are held the 2nd Thursday of the month from 7 – 9pm at 1226 Stoltz Rd, Suite B, Bethel Park, PA 15102.
(412) 447-8455
stillsupported@stillremembered.org 
https://stillremembered.org/

OLIVE TREE BEREAVEMENT
Olive Tree wants to provide a place of encouragement and to help you find peace and acceptance, instead of hiding behind a closed door. Bereaved parents Jona and Jonathan will welcome you into their home on the first Tuesday of the month, from 6p-8p. Jonathan is really good at talking to bereaved fathers and has a good message. There will be a small meal provided.
Please RSVP by contacting Jonathan and Jona Reyes 412-315-9168.
Email: jona.reyes2010@gmail.com

THE LULLABY FUND
Their mission is to help and provide comfort to those who tragically lost their child, assisting financially with all or some of the funeral costs.
412-398-1001
lullabyfund@gmail.com
https://www.lullabyfund.com

CHILDREN’S HOSPITAL OF PITTSBURGH BEREAVED PARENTS’ SUPPORT GROUP
Meetings: 2nd Wednesday of every month from 7:00pm-8:30pm
Hosted by the Supportive Care Department of UPMC Children’s Hospital Pittsburgh. This is functioning as a group for bereaved families who have been part of the hospital.
Location: The Children’s Home of Pittsburgh & Lemieux Family Center
5324 Penn Ave
Pittsburgh, PA 15224
Contact: Lori Malazich, Bereavement Coordinator UPMC Children’s Hospital of Pittsburgh
at 412-692-3585 or lori.malazich@chp.edu

PREGNANCY LOSS SUPPORT: STS. JOHN AND PAUL CATHOLIC CHURCH
Meetings: 1st Thursday of every month from 7:00pm-8:00pm
Come join women who have suffered the loss of a pregnancy through miscarriage. Through community and friendship, we can navigate the grieving process and grow with the Lord.
Location: Conference room in the lower level of the church.
2586 Wexford Bayne Road
Sewickley, PA 15143
Contact: Judy Kristan, 724-272-0331

HIGHMARK CARING PLACE-A CENTER FOR GRIEVING CHILDREN, ADOLESCENTS AND THEIR FAMILIES
A safe place where grieving children and families can come together and be with others who understand what they’re going through.
Locations:
Pittsburgh Region: 620 Stanwix Street, Pittsburgh, PA 15222; 888-224-4673
Cranberry Region: 200 Warrendale Village Drive, Warrendale, PA 15086; 888-734-4073
Erie Region: Bayview Office Park, Building 2, 510 Cranberry Street, Erie, PA 16507; 866-212-4673
Harrisburg Region: 3 Walnut Street, Suite 200, Lemoyne, PA 17043; 866-613-4673

EMMA'S FOOTPRINTS
The Emma’s Footprints Care Team is comprised of moms who have experienced pregnancy or infant loss. Our Care Team provides one-on-one emotional support by connecting new-loss moms with moms who are further along in their grief journeys. We also provide financial assistance to families in their time of need, to help ease the financial strain this unthinkable loss can place on them. Our assistance programs help with funeral and memorialization costs, as well as burial and cremation expenses.
(814) 464-5989
Email: tracy@emmasfootprints.com
http://emmasfootprints.com/
https://www.facebook.com/EmmasFootprints/

ACHING ARMS SUPPORT GROUP
Aching Arms is a parent-led support group for families that have lost a child. Couples are welcome along with any other support person you may need.
When: 3rd Tuesday of each month from 7 – 9 p.m
Location: The Mario Lemieux Children’s Home of Pittsburgh
5324 Penn Ave.
Pittsburgh, PA 15224
https://www.achingarmspgh.com

HEALING HEARTS INFANT BEREAVEMENT RESOURCES
Healing Hearts Infant Bereavement Resources program, an initiative of Cribs for Kids®, assists families who have been touched by a crisis in pregnancy or the death of a baby. It is a place where invited members can share stories and other information about their precious child. Meetings occur the first Tuesday of each month from 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. at Cribs for Kids®
5450 Second Avenue Pittsburgh, PA 15207
Andrea Wilson, MSW Support and Education Coordinator
(412) 322-5680 ext. 4
Email: awilson@cribsforkids.org
https://cribsforkids.org/healing-hearts/

PREGNANCY AFTER LOSS CHILDBIRTH CLASS
Helps parents prepare for the upcoming birth with confidence. Healing activities, trigger recognition, birth vision creation and comfort and coping techniques will be included.
Two Saturdays 10am-12:30pm Fee $150
2019 Dates -June 22/29, Sept 21/28, December 7/14
Location: Mid-Atlantic Mothers' Milk Bank
3127 Penn Ave.
Pittsburgh, PA 15201
Contact Jan Mallak at 412-973-3521
pghdoula@gmail.com

L.A.M.P.S. (LIFE AFTER MISCARRIAGE, PERINATAL LOSS, AND STILLBIRTH) SUPPORT GROUP
If you have lost a child through pregnancy loss, miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss, then L.A.M.P.S. may be a valuable source of support for you. We are a volunteer-based organization committed to providing crisis support and long-term aid to families after the death of a child from any cause.
First Tuesday of each month 7:30-9:30 pm
St. John's Lutheran Church
311 Cumberland Road
Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 15237
Email: Pittsburgh.LAMPS@gmail.com
www.lifeAfterMPS.org

QUEEN B PROJECT
Tiffany’s story is beautifully told, and she has reached out to area hospitals to provide her Queen B bags to support grieving parents. Our mission is to provide connection and resources, as well as help in the healing journey of bereaved families by offering comfort to those whose sweet precious babies have gone too soon.
PO Box 9 Marysville, Pennsylvania 17053
Email: healinghearts@queenproject.com
http://queenbproject.com/index.html
https://www.facebook.com/QueenBProject/

THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS-Pittsburgh Chapter
When a child dies, at any age, the family suffers intense pain and may feel hopeless and isolated. Compassionate Friends provides comfort, hope, and support for people whose children, grandchildren, or siblings have passed away at any age, including pregnancy loss. There are 25 groups in a 200-mile radius of Pittsburgh from Akron, OH to Johnstown, PA.
Local- TCF Pittsburgh Chapter
Monthly meeting the last Sunday of the month
Bower Hill Community Church-Mt. Lebanon
70 Moffett St, Pittsburgh, PA 15243
(412) 835-1105  compassion@tcfpittsburgh.org

National-(877) 969-0010
www.compassionatefriends.org
https://www.facebook.com/TCFUSA

LUCY'S FIRST STEP (out of Erie, PA)
We are running a counselor-moderated group therapy program, as well as providing financial assistance for private counseling and infant burials. To register for a group therapy session, please contact us.
PO Box 9372
Erie, PA 16505
(814) 969-1267
Email: lucysfirststep@gmail.com
www.lucysfirststep.org/
https://www.facebook.com/pg/LucysFirstStep/events/?ref=page_internal

HEART OF CENTRAL PA FERTILITY ISSUES AND LOSS SUPPORT GROUP (out of Central, PA)
HEART (Helping Empty Arms Recover Together) of Central PA is an organization that provides support for individuals who have experienced pregnancy loss, stillbirth, infant death, and/or fertility issues
Meetings: 2nd Wednesday of each month from 6 to 8 p.m.
Location: CHOICES, 2214 N. Atherton Street, Upper Level, State College, PA 16801
Contact: For more information and to register, contact info@heartofpa.org

TOUCHED BY NATHAN FOUNDATION (out of Poland, OH)
The organization helps parents, their family members, and their babies. We emphasize the need to educate families in order to help the parents of fragile babies. These families are coping with the overwhelming stresses and anxieties felt when their newborn has a life-threatening problem. Often, they need emotional support as well as help with their everyday responsibilities. Programs include – bereavement education and the funeral home program.
(330) 750-1934
Email: mail@touchedbynathan.org
http://touchedbynathan.org/
https://www.facebook.com/touchedbynathan/

ANGEL TALK SUPPORT GROUP (out of Lewisburg, WV)
Angel Talk offers child loss support group meetings to families in West Virginia. . We welcome anyone affected by child loss, from parents to siblings to grandparents and friends. Children are welcome at our meetings. Though this may seem counterproductive, it is important that children affected by child loss also have a place to grieve and to witness how healthy grieving occurs. We are Christian-based and believe that faith in God is part of healthy grieving.
Meetings: Quarterly meetings, contact for details
Location: Lewisburg, WV.
Contact: Jenifer Richmond, 304-716-6681 or jsmith0106@hotmail.com

Non denominational home funeral celebrant and ordained minister
Karen Bernard-Services grounded in the mystery and love at the heart of the universe
kbsweethome@gmail.com or 412-487-5060

Indiana County, PA resources

LOCAL GRIEF SUPPORT OF INDIANA COUNTY
Download PDF of Indiana County Resources

Latrobe/Blairsville, PA

The Tears Foundation- PA Chapter- Support Group
Every 3rd Thursday
6:30-8:00pm
Ravaila's Restaurant
59 W Market St.
Blairsville, PA 15717
Paige Green pennchapter@thetearsfoundation.org

Youngstown, OH/Mahoning Valley resources
Sophia's Wings is dedicated to providing comfort to families suffering the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, ectopic pregnancy, or neonatal death. Our free grief counseling by a licensed therapist offers families support while remembering and honoring their babies on a journey to healing and hope. 

National Resources

How to get sleep when you are dealing with grief

STAR Legacy Foundation- -dedicated to stillbirth prevention.
Western PA Facebook page
Online support groups

Caring Bridge- How to tell your baby's story in a unique, online format, to keep loved ones updated on your journey though infant loss.

CLIMB-Center for Loss in Multiple Birth

Stillbirthday 

Hayden's Helpings Hands is a foundation of the Charitable Partnership Fund, dedicated to financially assist parents with medical expenses after the birth of a stillborn baby. (As of July 2019, they are still taking applications from any state.)

TEARS Foundation - helps with funeral costs (not for TFMR), peer support
PA Facebook chapter

Carrying to Term

SGM/WWY Carrying to Term Perinatal Hospice Support Facebook group

LGBTQ+ Reproductive Loss

ATIME is devoted to assisting Jewish families through infertility and pregnancy loss. Facebook page

Return to Zero: HOPE -transforming the culture of pregnancy and infant loss

Genetics testing FAQ

Reproductive and Placental Research Unit Yale University  Only a few specialized centers for placental examination exist in the US.A trained placental pathologist can examine a placenta and assist in the elucidation of the causes of poor pregnancy outcome. A complete placental examination is most useful shortly after the time of delivery when the affected family is most in need of understanding what happened to their baby. If a full placental examination is not possible at the time of delivery because no placental pathologist is available, then the placenta can be transferred to a center that is prepared to make such an examination. As long as tissue blocks are saved from the placenta, a microscopic examination of the placenta is always possible at a later time if the need arises.

Capture Your Grief Project

For Health Care Professionals

More websites

 

Statistics

Fetal Death CDC- National Vital Statistics System

Cause of Fetal Death: Data From the Fetal Death
Report, 2014

Fetal and Perinatal Mortality U. S. 2013

 

Therapists

Forward Wellness Counseling and Consulting Services, LLC
Jodie Hnatkovich, MS, LPC *loss / birth trauma / NICU
Erin Blache, MS, LPC *infertility / birth trauma
239 Fourth Ave, Suite 1805
Pittsburgh 15222
Forwardwellnesscounseling.com
info@forwardwellnesscounseling.com

Pittsburgh Integrative Mental Health
160 N  Craig St, Ste 212
Pittsburgh, PA 15213
412-687-1234
http://www.pimhservices.com/infant-and-child-death

INNER BALANCE
Marci L. Sturgeon-Rusiewicz  *grief
319 Maryland Ave., Suite C
Oakmont, PA 15139
724-351-2260

Amy Lewis
amy@socialemotionalchange.com
www.socialemotionalchange.com
100 Station Square Drive, Suite 205
Pittsburgh, PA 15219
412-532-6622

Allison J. Spinneweber, LCSW / loss
East End Therapists
6315 Forbes Avenue, Suite B14
Pittsburgh, PA 15217
412-467-6042

Westmoreland Psychotherapy Associates
4559 Old William Penn Highway
Murrysville, PA 15668
412-467-6042

Lara Solensky, LPC / loss
www.larasolenskylpc.weebly.com
larasolenskylpc@gmail.com
Fox Chapel / Sq. Hill
814-207-7330

Courtney Williams, MA, NCC, LPC  / infant disability diagnosis/ early loss
courtneywilliamslpc@gmail.com
7625 W. Hutchinson Ave.
Pittsburgh, PA 15218 (Regent Square )
412-436-9034

Helen Keegan-Geroux, LPC
4o Huff Ave
Greensburg, PA 15601
724-832-2354

Books & Articles

Opening one book on Amazon (as an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases) will list many other suggestions on perinatal loss and grief. Here are just a few recommendations:

Bearing the Unbearable   "In this poignant, heartrending, and heart-lifting book, Joannne Cacciatore teaches how loss is transformed to peace, devastating grief to active and practical love. Beautifully, beautifully written, Bearing the Unbearable is for all those who have grieved, will grieve, or support others through bereavement.” (Gabor Maté MD)

Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief  Part memoir, part handbook for the heartbroken, this powerful, unsparing account of losing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving, and offers inspiration on moving forward, gently integrating the loss into life.

Holding Avery is a raw exploration of life after the death of a child. Heidi Chandler unapologetically recounts her heartache ― the fears and doubts that come with knowing she is a mother but without a child to care for. The unabashed honesty of her grief will resonate with anyone who has experienced loss and found that the question 'why?' may always go unanswered. But Heidi learns that moving through the tragedy is not impossible.

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby offers  reassurance to parents who struggle with anger, guilt, and despair during and after such a tragedy and also has a chapter just for dads.

Waiting For Gabriel This memoir is the true story of parents who were told that their unborn baby had an incurable heart condition, confronting them with an impossible decision: to attempt risky surgeries to give their baby a chance at a longer life, or to continue the pregnancy and embrace their baby's life as it would unfold, from conception to natural death. The book also addresses larger issues including questions about heroic medicine; attitudes and practices regarding pregnancy and infant loss; and new dilemmas created by advances in prenatal testing, including what to do if a test reveals a fatal problem.

Ghostbelly is Elizabeth Heineman’s personal account of a home birth that goes tragically wrong—ending in a stillbirth—and the harrowing process of grief and questioning that follows. It’s also Heineman’s unexpected tale of the loss of a newborn: before burial, she brings the baby home for overnight stays.

Opening Up -The Healing Power of Expressing Emotions presents astonishing evidence that personal self-disclosure is not only good for our emotional health, but boosts our physical health as well. The authors also make a compelling case that people can improve their overall health and well-being by writing about troubling feelings and experiences in their second book, Opening Up by Writing it Down: How Expressive Writing Improves Health and Eases Emotional Pain. 

In Walking the Labyrinth of My Heart, a mother details her pregnancy journey with her daughter who dies an hour after birth of trisomy 18.  Her experiences with infertility, motherhood, infant loss and miscarriage unfuse her writing with compassion for all women.

Reproductive Losses: Challenges to LGBTQ Family-Making  Drawing on Craven’s training as a feminist anthropologist and her experiences as a queer parent who has experienced loss, Reproductive Losses includes detailed stories drawn from over fifty interviews with LGBTQ people (including those who carried pregnancies, non-gestational and adoptive parents, and families from a broad range of racial/ethnic, socio-economic, and religious backgrounds) to consider how they experience loss, grief, and mourning.

A Gift of Time is a gentle and practical guide for parents who decide to continue their pregnancy knowing that their baby's life will be brief.

One in Four Dr. Barbara Toppin reveals the blind eye turned on one of the most prevalent causes of pregnancy loss: thrombophilias, or clotting disorders. Affecting nearly 42% of the population, thrombophilias often go undetected in women, yet are a primary cause of miscarriages. At the same time, they can be treated easily and systematically, as Dr. Toppin shows in her thriving practice and in this book. One in Four shows how thousands of women each year are able to keep their pregnancies under Dr. Toppin's expert guidance—and why you deserve to be as educated as possible about your pregnancy and the choices you make for your and your future family's health.

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand
When a painful loss or life-shattering event upends your world, here is the first thing to know: there is nothing wrong with grief.  "Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form," says Megan Devine. "It is a natural and sane response to loss."  The author offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we try to help others who have endured tragedy.

Research into miscarriage, stillbirth, and premature birth, and provide pregnancy health information to parents.
https://www.tommys.org/

Still Standing, an online magazine whose focus is:

  • Giving a voice to grief
  • Connecting hearts around the world who have similar life experiences
  • Becoming a resource for friends, family, and medical professionals, to know how to support someone enduring child loss and/or infertility

A wish list from bereaved parents to help friends and family support them
http://www.thegoodgrieftrust.org/child/wish-list-bereaved-parents/

The Walking With You Facebook group is a place for families who have experienced the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, infant death, or the death of a child. A place to find comfort, hope, peace, and most of all to know that they are not walking this path alone.

Baby memorial book

Book club book list

Articles

 

Siblings

The Dougy Center -The National Center for Grieving Children and Families The mission of The Dougy Center is to provide support in a safe place where children, teens, young adults and their families grieving a death can share their experiences. They have also published helpful downloadable papers about how to help children deal with grief.

How Do We Tell the Children?  Dr. Daniel Schaefer, working with child psychologists and trauma experts, and drawing on more than three decades of experience with families in crisis, has written a practical guide for anyone who works or lives with children—parents, caregivers, counselors, or teachers—to respond to their inevitable questions about loss and change, life and death. He provides strategies to assist children with grief and trauma and offers time-tested advice and language that children can understand.

Books for children

 

Grandparents
Grandma's Tears: Comfort for Grieving Grandparents 

A Grandparent’s Sorrow

Healing a Grandparent's Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Grandchild Dies

Forgotten Tears: A Grandmother's Journey Through Grief

To The Grandparents Who Lost a Grandchild, We See You

Grieving Grandparents Facebook group

Articles

 

Marriage and Grief
Mourning and Marriage After the Loss of a Child

http://blog.sufficientgraceministries.org/2012/02/walking-with-you-the-ripples-flow-to-our-marriage-2/

 

Resources for Health Care Professionals

Care Provider Fact Sheet (PDF)

 

Get in touch with us today to learn how we can support you or a loved one during perinatal loss or to offer support.