Postpartum Support
In the days following a loss, it is important to remember that a woman’s body has just given birth, and the physical recuperation is just the same, but compounded by grief.
Having a sensitive postpartum doula who understands the phases of grief can help a family anticipate what they might be feeling in the days ahead. Frequently friends and even family shy away from the darkness because they are fearful.
Traditional and bereavement
postpartum doula care
Along with traditional postpartum doula care, a bereavement doula:
- Guides families in seeking answers to their questions and provides information in multiple formats
- Respects the disorder instead of imposing order by accepting a broad range of grief reactions without becoming judgmental
- Listens as parents talk about how they feel
- Identifies ways to deal with stress
- Creates safe spaces where parents can feel free to express themselves as they touch mementos, view pictures and display reminders of their baby
- Acknowledges the normalcy of their individual experience and that they "can’t do grief wrong."
- Encourages the setting of small goals and to do things that bring joy
- Connects families with local support groups or peer support that can make the experience less lonely as well as provide a perspective on the loss process
- Suggests creating culture specific remembrance rituals that will resonate with the family
- Supports home funerals
"What makes a mother feel cared for is when she is reminded of her resilience."
– Swanson
Women with a history of pregnancy loss are at increased risk for depression and anxiety, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), after the birth of a child. Parents with complicated bereavement will be recognized and with permission, referred to other healthcare professionals. We have a perinatal loss therapist on our board of directors to advise on referrals.
A bereavement doula-maintains a hope filled attitude she can get through this, eventually sort out the meaning of this baby’s life and embrace the transformation that the future holds.